I have always found it a little comical when people ask me “What are you planning on doing with your Psychology degree? Are you planning on becoming a therapist?”, because well, reality is that psychology is involved in everything, and I do mean everything! There is psychology in money, there is psychology in marketing, there is even psychology in eating, and I have found this out personally myself that there is psychology in getting over a loss, letting go and moving on.
As pet owners or previous pet owners, you all know about the love that one has for their pet. They become like family.
Now I’m the type of person where when something negative happens I ask the ‘why’s’ as in, ‘Why did this happen?!’, which is a masculine trait, I use my head because my heart is busy mending.
I have learned that the key to truly moving on is to ditch the ‘why’s’ and to just feel. When I feel like I am missing someone or something, like a beloved pet, whether alive or not, I give in to that feeling, I miss them uncontrollably, send them love, and move on. This exercise might take numerous times in one day or even in one hour, but then as time moves us on as it naturally does, the frequency will be less and less. To this day I miss what I have lost, and that is okay, because when that overwhelming feeling washes over me, I give in, I miss them, I send them love (alive or not), and I move on.
I’ve realised that the ‘whys’ will never bring closure, will never bring back what I had lost, in fact it would only make me sad. It does not matter how many times I go through it, it always feels like the first. The sting never gets dull, the heart, as many times it was broken, breaks again.
I also know people who have had a loss for over 10 years and still talk about it like it happened yesterday. Truly moving on isn’t about thinking, its about feeling, and choosing to feel and give love again versus anything else will be the greatest gift you can give to yourself, and believe it or not, will help you move on, not forget, but to truly move on.
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Lucy is an avid pet mom; with dogs, cats, goats and horses to keep her busy! All of her pet 'kids' are fed a species appropriate diet with proper supplementation so she can watch them thrive. Her expertise and experience lie in nutraceutical supplementation and is a health advocate for proper diet and nutrition. Her other passions in life are schutzhund and equestrian riding.